Musing no. 1: Don’t get married.

Don’t get married 

When you think that you’re going to be alone for the rest of your life.

When you feel unwanted, useless, unworthy of love, and aren’t needed.

When you feel uglier than any girl you’ve seen around you, because you’re shorter, pudgier, uglier than them.

Don’t get married because you’re lonely.

Don’t get married because you’re getting old.

Don’t get married because your time to bear children is running out. Even those who have time may not be able to have children.

Don’t get married to hide your secrets.

Don’t get married to a secret. 

Don’t get married to a child. Respect the reason why there’s a gap between two river banks. A reason was set up.

Don’t get married when there are red flags.

One ref flag is a flag too many.

Don’t get married because they proposed to you on their birthday.

Don’t get married because their mom loves you. 

Don’t get married because you have nothing else better to do.

Don’t get married and promise things you don’t mean just to get what you want.

Don’t get married because you feel like you have to.

Don’t get married because he’s wearing the most expensive cologne, dressed nicely in a suit, bringing in six figures but can’t find time for you. 

Don’t get married and justify it’s God’s will.

Don’t get married because it’s what you think the right decision is at the time.
Don’t get married to an illusion that hides all your biggest fears.

Don’t get married to someone who won’t value you no matter what you do.

Don’t get married to someone more in love about earning money; notice I said “in love about earning,” and not “worried about earning for your family.”

Don’t get married if they love you more than God.

Don’t get married in a rush.

Get married when you both promise to become old, growing together.

Get married to someone who is curious how you brush your hair, put your makeup on, put your work shirt on, how you brush your teeth–all stupid details, but to them is the most adorable.

Get married to someone who isn’t ashamed of being with you or about you, no matter what. 

Get married to someone who is kind.

Get married to someone who wants to learn to love what you love, so they can share your joy for it.

Get married to someone who encourages your growth, and seeks to grow in knowledge with you.

Get married to someone who listens to your cries and comforts you, no matter how tired he or she is. 

Get married to someone whose priority is making you happy, because that’s what you do for them.

Get married to someone who’d go above and beyond for you, because they see what you sacrifice for them. 

Get married to your partner–not to a boss.

Get married when you understand that you don’t need to change your quirks because you’re enough, and that’s why they fell in love. 

Get married when you feel safe with them, because they’d rather suffer than cause you discomfort, or broken promises.

Get married when you find you.

Get married when you recognize that God comes first.

Get married to someone who recognizes what you believe and honors and loves you without diminishing respect for your beliefs.

Get married to someone who loves you for wearing glasses, no make up, PJs, and still thinks you’re the most gorgeous being they’d laid eyes on, on the planet.

Get married when it’s True Love. 

Because you wait for it. You don’t seek it out. 

It will arrive, and will engulf you in a cloud of comfort, peace, and joy. And it shall surpass all understanding.

Because He is the Source of infinite love and joy. 

Just wait. 

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